JUst look at those who are controlling most of the banks in nigeria today if you think i am wrong. MOstly, the crooked and hugely corrupt tend to gain the upper hand in our banks and they easily ditch the honest, which are often seen as stumbling blocks. THe instruction of most current and late closed cum contributed banks tells the story – no need mentioning names here as these people are well known to us all, and many of them still parade themselves in the nigerian social circles. THat was where the phone gab between lagos and north america ended. THe naira value of the $10, 000 the big man needed at n400 to a dollar which he offered is n4 million. THe man added that he will also need thousands of dollars to pay rent for his boys in new york and new jersey. THe rent is about $8, 000 by son, and this guy is a civil servant in nigeria. A senior civil servant whose annual salary is less than $12, 000/year is preserving two sons who are attending bodies in the us and three other young in private derivative schools in nigeria. YOu then begin to wonder where the tens of thousands of dollars the civil servant was disbursement on his sons and the rest of his family were coming from until you hear about the report of the auditor general of nigeria. THough the report exhaustive missing cash from unremitted funds, royalties, vats and cash progresses, billions more have been stolen via agreement awards, fluke acquisition and all sorts of dubious buys. IN which decent society will individuals may dip their hands into management funds at will and not end up in jail?WE must never miss one point: there are fairly decent civil servants out there, but many of them are powerless and even afraid to speak out. ONe of such civil servant told the other time that an listener who report to her and who used to beg for clothes from her husband and brother is not bidding for settlements from the administration institution where they work. THe young man is now discipline a house despite earning less than n400, 000 a year. MAny in the departments live far above their means and support their income with management funds from cash advance, cash grabs, accord manipulations, or outright theft of state funds. DO the math and you can see that some in the civil service are as corrupt as their political masters. THings got so bad during the jonathan kleptocracy when it was a free for all and the bigger the loot the better it turned out for the thieves, and that was when adulteration was redefined by statesmanlike order.
ANd believe himself. WE may be deceived to enter a toxic affiliation because we don’t know the person on the start but is our accountability to acknowledge the alert signs and respect them. STaying or leaving must be a calculated arbitrament, guided by your hopes and not your fears read anxiety of being lonely or feel unloved. YOu will feel unloved untill you love yourself. WOrk on that. THough you ware victimized, you don’t have to feel a victim; that will take your power away. THere are no magical explanations but there will be progresses, just keep focused. IF you analyse the initial interaction with your ex, you will recognize your guts telling you no!; learn from that. OBserve myself and what you feel and you will learn how to make healthier decisions in alliances and aught else. I’m learning too and even after this, i’m evolving. I believe that we need to learn exposure and that does not mean to be a prey. I’m wishing you the best. STay strong. @Alicebravo!I’m getting out of 24 years to a covert narc. THe find in this divorce is paralyzing at best. I just woke up from a 10 year fog, each time i rose above the fog, i battled oppression that was so thick, it smothered me. I have 4 babes, i did the forgo of staying to give them succession, i was so wrong, because they all got screwed into his management. THus, them blame me and its severed some bridges. IVe been seeking out books, and therapy, alt med behaviors, etc. I found emdr therapy to be greatest at finding triggers in one session!IT is truly amazing how fast you come to where it all started. MY first one took me back to the age of 5 in 10 mins!IVe been through acupuncture, chiropractors, hypnosis, and biofeedback…. IVe been 9 months without a sleep cycle 3hours in 2011, but this time around i accumulated cptsd with fibromyalgia – oh so painful, ordinary now for 16 months : no good days without pain, because everyday a piece to the puzzle being his supply pops into view. 24 years to put concurrently…. I cant see my mom after heart surgery, because i feel so wrong to moanin pain and all i want to do is take her pain from her and bare it with my daily agony. I just look forward to moving away up to my family, far away from him. TO sweetnlucky: this is a very hard condition for a youth to control emotionally.