IT was a total con game for him. I don’t know how i could be so stupid, but now he truly has disavowed me, because i wouldn’t give him another money, so, it’s hurting, but i know i will heal in time. HE is a classic narcissist. THinks only of himself and what he wants. I was to blame for all his money difficulty and general life trouble, so therefore he mandatory that i support him both emotionally and financially. AWful, awful relationship. WHy did i stay in it so long?I don’t comprehend myself. AFter our last break up i was reluctant to get back with him after everybody he had done to me the packing his stuff and the coming and goings, it was like every 6 weeks or so he’d be off on his bike again!BUt after yet another silent measure and him knowing i was out with friends i approved a text from him saying fundamentally he wanted to end it all and he would see me in another life!OF course i answered… he has a cocaine habit which he blamed all the lying, cheating, paranoia, disappearing acts on, whole he ever done was down to his drug problem and to a point i wanted to believe it was the drugs too. HE begged me to help get him off it and his words no mine have a normal life and all our troubles would be over… not!SO guess what 6 week in to a 12 step program to get off the coke he drawers he not happy, doesn’t feel the same about me packs his stuff and goes!SO i’m behind the bar and in he comes dead on 3pm when i start…served him had a bit of a smile a but of chit chat… i have to keep it occupational unluckily as i cant be seen to be an affecting mess behind the bar in front of the buyer…then my watsapp alert went off. MEssage reads:sorry to come in while your working,i hope that isn’t just your pub persona your giving off lol. I’m sorry i’m on such an poignant rollercoaster at the mo and didn’t want to make you unhappy…i just want you to know your the first thing i think of when i wake up commonplace. LOve rp xxange,let the money go – and let him go. HE will never change. I always had that tiny bit of hope too, but his illustrations remain the same, even though he has, i think become a little more patient and a little less angry – he’s still the same. I thought things would change when he got a better job – nope – he got a better job and he still expected me to pay his way!IN fact, he wanted to show me the attractive blinds he established at a trendy bar, so we went there in my car, my gas, and i bought him a very precious beer and myself one drink. THe entire event cost me about $40. 00. HE is never going to change. REad about how to get over a breakup. IT’s not easy. I just spent the weekend in a deep melancholy, but better this interim phase than the rest of my life with someone who uses me emotionally, financially, and materially, someone who i’m firstly excited to be with, but by power, handling, and control, ends up draining all my energy – and doesn’t realize he’s doing it!WAlk away. LEt it go. ANd i will do the same. IT’s a process. IT takes time. TAke the time and let him go. BEst,roseange,it’s normal to miss him. I miss my guy immensely, but i’ve just had it. AS i write this, i still want to text him, but i’m not going to. I find myself daydreaming of how good it could be if he was more normal,but he’s never going to change. I wen thru this use where u write down every adverse thing about him and i just kept writing and writing. HE has really done some cruel mean shit to me. WHen i start to miss him, i take out what i wrote, and remember how hurt he made me feel, then i don’t miss him for a while. HE once broke a wine bottle and 2 glasses on the street, drove my car 90 mph and risked to wrap the car around a pole, unless i gave him all the money in my wallet all bc i joked about how he never keeps a job in front of one of his friends. HE did this after i had paid for appetizers and drinks for all of us 54. 00 and i’m utterly certain he had whatever going on with the diner hostess.
DO you think they’re going to tough it out and continue to make those payments?DOn’t count on it. MOst of them couldn’t do it if they tried. IN fact, millions will lose their jobs as the economy turns down. 40 percent of the new jobs in this country in the last few years have been housing related. THose jobs will disappear. LOok for a huge, huge wave of omissions. DEsperate homeowners will load up the accouterments, hand the keys to the lender and drive away. WHat’s more, they’ll do it by the millions, bringing down the world’s biggest financial foundations and crashing the National Association of Securities Dealers Automated Quotations while they’re at it. THe wall street journal says, “in recent years, the housing business has bent over apprehended to allow people. TO buy houses they couldn’t before afford. NOw the bill is coming due. ” money cartridge reports that home prices are going up five times as fast as singular income. “In fact, the market could not have run this far if not for the proliferation of worry only advances, which make it probably for people to attainment more home than they could differently afford. ” forbes warns, “get out now, because house prices on the urban coasts have peaked. THat’s the accord of experts, based on ratios such as house prices to local incomes. RIsing interest rates have started to put the brakes on house esteem. THe number of ‘for sale’ signs in Calif is exploding like spring pollen. ” and the daily inventorying says, “fannie mae and freddie mac are the lenders behind $4 thousand of housing loans. THese constitutions are guilty of manipulations that make the folks at enron look like a bunch of boy scouts. THey’ve cooked their books, hidden huge losses, paid off politicians, and lied to backers every which way from sunday. “These giant lenders are in no position to weather even a small downturn. BUt the downturn has already started, and it’s not going to be small. WHen these big companies fail, it will rock financial markets. INterest rates will soar. “The main aberration between these scandals and enron is size. THe wealth that will go down the tubes this time is thousands of times greater. EVery singleinvestor, homeowner, and government in the world will feel the shock. HOme buying could dry up because borrowers can’t get backing. ANd anyway, who wants to buy a house that’s losing value?WAit six months and you can get it cheaper,people will figure. ” those of us who were in the real property and advance market in the jimmy carter years know what that’s like. THose of you who weren’t around then have a big jolt in store.