EVen thought she called me. I never knew of her. I went all summer without talking to this man. I was depressed all summer. SPent weeks in my room. I lost my job. I late got a new job on sunday. HE came in yesterday and started some issues. I’m now fired again and looking for another job. SOmehow i hate this man but wanna run to him for help. I feel hopelesshi goldiiee,this man sounds awful. HE has lied to you and sucked you in – you can never trust him again. HE needs you because it makes him feel enormous. NOw you must take back that power and look after oneself. BReak all contact with him, even if he begs to see you again. FInd someone who is kind, empathetic and genuine, perhaps someone nearer your own age who does not have so much confidential history but try not to unload all your woes onto a new man or you will seem needy and put him off!. YOu don’t need this narcissist to help you as he will just abide to suck you dry. REad some of the things mentioned in the comment above – they will give you strength. LOok after oneself. XHoover maneuver just got done reading about it. I feel exonerated because i knew my siblings were fake and phony but didn’t have the correct words to determine them. NOw i do. REcently cut ties with relatives and i suspect they aren’t going away quietly. I’d like opinions from anyone that wants to give some, because relatives hung around our parents most of their lives up to their deaths, and now they are seeking me out because i’m the only immediate family member left and they want 2 hang out. HAven’t seen my sister in 30 years, my brother on and off and i feel it is a little crazy why they can’t just live their lives on their own. I did and i loved not being close 2 them. I had my space. MY own space. LEast i have a backup if they show up at my doorstep unannounced. MY sister expects me not 2 smoke, drink or swear around her child and you can bet i will do all three. MAybe even run around my home nude just to embarrass the heck out of her prudish ways.
THank you for dedicating your life to what needs to be address so dearlyzi feel like ruby. HAd a narcissitic boyfriend. HE drained me of alot of my savings. HE always blamed me for all his life complexities. HOwever, now that i have broken up with him, i feel this sense of loss, like i’m disconnected to the world. I have no children, and few friends as i am an introvert. MY life is calm and tranquil, but a part of me misses him, but he is bad for me. IF i got back with him, my life would be a wreck again, my money would float down the drain, and my energy would be sucked out of me. JUst don’t know how to get over this split feeling i have. ANybody undergo this?I’d comprehend your input. HEllo rose, had needy friends i used 2 think needed 2 be around them until i noticed how narcissistic they are, and then i decided 2 slowly back away from them. HAd male friends but it became now and then discussions between 1 guy and another guy striving 2 get my concentration. IT was wear. I used 2 think i’m not the referee here, they lacked self guarantee, self esteem, and i felt heavy by having 2 reassure each of them for their benefactions in the devotion. I gave them my fondness they brought drama and gossip which is dysfunctional. IT was a huge burden. I want 2 be around secure folks, not folks that have issues, and want to use me for that they need. 1 of my friends wanted me to give her some of my son’s child support because she was short. THe answer was no. ALl the excuses will overcome you if you let it when they can’t use you for what they need and what age does a person need 2 be when they are a fully functioning adult that is responsible for their own life?I used 2 wonder why don’t they just go do what they need himself?NOt in a current affiliation and i love it. DOn’t have male friends anymore either. PEople want 2 hang out if they can use you 2 get something, different how many out of the blue folks call you invariably because they value you as a woman and a friend?IN order 4 me 2 go out and hang with anyone they have 2 be positively 100% fully functioning adult that wants affection from me only, no loans 4 $, no wanting 2 borrow my car 2 drive because their car is conveniently in the garage and they can’t afford 2 get it out. GEtting in a affiliation with a man that has kids and wants me 2 raise his kids, not event. I wonder isn’t anyone apt for their life himself?I’m happy being single. I have no regrets i don’t date. I lately broke up from a draining relationship with a narcissist and i’ve been there for almost two years. LOst 22 pounds and i was already thin before… it is not the first time i essayed do leave him and i was partially alert of what was business when we got back coincidentally last time. I have strong affections for him and i wanted to make sure i was doing all i could to make things work. IN the process, i almost lost my mind and the weigh loss on the last five months was the red line for me. I always told him that if i was obliged to choose between my love for him and my love for myself, i would not hesitate in option me and the time came when i had to quit the journey. I wish him the best and i think he needs love like any other human been but i have no more energy for it, though i love him.