MY daughters said to my father that she takes contact when she is ready. DId my parents distinguished that?NO, they all the time try to press her to take contact. ANd when it is not working with her she does not answer , they contact me, sending some “pure” letters that i do not believe any moore. THe aim is to get us hooked again!THank you alice, i have been abused as a child, only to marry a bully and raise babes that bully me, now after years of trying to escape, i am back living in usa, pennies of reason why i should be punished for what i did they say, i never can do enough to please them, or spend enough, i get cornor by wanting to see my grandchildren, i put up with their bullying me, after dec. 22 and a stroke, and aneurysm that can’t be fixed, i came out one last time to see my granddaughter, but with all the yelling at me for not being loving enough , i see it has corrupt my granddaughter. NOt sure what to do, but will have to make a choice to live away from all of them. THank you for dedicating your life to what needs to be address so dearlyzi feel like ruby. HAd a narcissitic admirer. HE drained me of alot of my savings. HE always blamed me for all his life difficulties. HOwever, now that i have broken up with him, i feel this sense of loss, like i’m irregular to the world. I have no young, and few friends as i am an introvert. MY life is calm and calm, but a part of me misses him, but he is bad for me. IF i got back with him, my life would be a wreck again, my money would float down the drain, and my energy would be sucked out of me. JUst don’t know how to get over this split feeling i have. ANybody suffer this?I’d understand your input. HEllo rose, had needy friends i used 2 think needed 2 be around them until i noticed how narcissistic they are, and then i decided 2 slowly back away from them. HAd male friends but it became sporadically discussions between 1 guy and another guy striving 2 get my concern. IT was exhausting. I used 2 think i’m not the referee here, they lacked self guarantee, self esteem, and i felt laden by having 2 reassure each of them for their presents in the love. I gave them my fondness they brought drama and gossip which is dysfunctional. IT was a huge burden. I want 2 be around secure folks, not folks that have issues, and want to use me for what they need. 1 of my friends wanted me to give her some of my son’s child support because she was short. THe answer was no. ALl the excuses will defeat you if you let it when they can’t use you for what they need and what age does a person need 2 be when they are a fully interim adult that is accountable for their own life?I used 2 wonder why don’t they just go do what they need himself?NOt in a current relationship and i love it. DOn’t have male friends anymore either. PEople want 2 hang out if they can use you 2 get anything, otherwise how many out of the blue folks call you regularly because they value you as a woman and a friend?IN order 4 me 2 go out and hang with anyone they have 2 be entirely 100% fully temporary adult that wants attachment from me only, no loans 4 $, no wanting 2 borrow my car 2 drive because their car is conveniently in the garage and they can’t afford 2 get it out. GEtting in a alliance with a man that has kids and wants me 2 raise his kids, not event. I wonder isn’t anyone responsible for their life oneself?I’m happy being single. I have no regrets i don’t date.
SHe doesn’t give a crap. IT’s all about her. ANd she complains how hard she has it. MY mom and i are both lame in lots of pain, can’t work. I’m struggling to just type this on phone. ANyhow. WAnted to share my story cause these leeches can also be family members and not just quixotic comrades. I finally had enough and kicked out my narcissist with my family’s help. I was doing great, then felt so lonely last weekend. MY tire blew out on the highway, and i called him – big mistake. HE wanted money for helping me, even though i had already given him $15,000 in a 2 year period, plus always paid his way for eating out, movies, gas. IT was a total con game for him. I don’t know how i could be so stupid, but now he in fact has rejected me, because i wouldn’t give him anymore money, so, it’s hurting, but i know i will heal in time. HE is a classic narcissist. THinks only of himself and what he wants. I was to blame for all his money difficulty and general life distress, so ergo he requisite that i support him both emotionally and financially. AWful, awful alliance. WHy did i stay in it so long?I don’t understand myself. AFter our last break up i was reluctant to get back with him after all he had done to me the packing his stuff and the coming and goings, it was like every 6 weeks or so he’d be off on his bike again!BUt after yet another silent dosage and him knowing i was out with friends i approved a text from him saying primarily he wanted to end it all and he would see me in another life!OF course i acknowledged… he has a cocaine habit which he blamed all the lying, cheating, paranoia, disappearing acts on, all he ever done was down to his drug problem and to a point i wanted to believe it was the drugs too. HE begged me to help get him off it and his words no mine have a normal life and all our troubles would be over… not!SO guess what 6 week in to a 12 step program to get off the coke he broadcasts he not happy, doesn’t feel the same about me packs his stuff and goes!SO i’m behind the bar and in he comes dead on 3pm when i start…served him had a bit of a smile a but of chit chat… i have to keep it work regrettably as i cant be seen to be an moving mess behind the bar in front of the customers…then my watsapp alert went off. MEssage reads:sorry to come in while your working,i hope that isn’t just your pub persona your giving off lol. I’m sorry i’m on such an affecting rollercoaster at the mo and didn’t want to make you unhappy…i just want you to know your the first thing i think of when i wake up customary. LOve rp xxange,let the money go – and let him go. HE will never change. I always had that tiny bit of hope too, but his illustrations remain the same, even though he has, i think become a little more patient and a little less angry – he’s still the same. I thought things would change when he got a better job – nope – he got a better job and he still due me to pay his way!IN fact, he wanted to show me the lovely blinds he established at a trendy bar, so we went there in my car, my gas, and i bought him a very expensive beer and myself one drink.