IT’s hard when person is in house. SHe lies, does things intentionally to anger me, make me annoyed, even sick i get migraines from bouquets and smells, etc i am sick, so stressed i get migraines almost daily. SHe’s controlling, cold, has no empathy, self authorized, and lacks remorse. SHe’s very cruel. WHat’s best way to detach when you still have to live with someone?LAst couple days i’ve been trying to not say one word and she keeps trying to talk to me. SHe’s guilty cause she left for a nice fancy recess and left my mom and i here. WE don’t feel well enough to go anyhow, i don’t want go w/her but she goes lots places and does what she pleases. WE are stuck in house, no passage. SHe doesn’t give a crap. IT’s all about her. ANd she complains how hard she has it. MY mom and i are both handicapped in lots of pain, can’t work. I’m struggling to just type this on phone. ANyhow. WAnted to share my story cause these leeches can also be family members and not just visionary partners. I finally had enough and kicked out my narcissist with my family’s help. I was doing great, then felt so lonely last weekend. MY tire blew out on the highway, and i called him – big mistake. HE wanted money for helping me, even though i had already given him $15,000 in a 2 year period, plus always paid his way for eating out, movies, gas. IT was a total con game for him. I don’t know how i could be so stupid, but now he truly has declined me, because i wouldn’t give him again money, so, it’s hurting, but i know i will heal in time. HE is a classic narcissist. THinks only of himself and what he wants. I was to blame for all his money complexities and general life difficulty, so therefore he compulsory that i support him both emotionally and financially. AWful, awful affiliation. WHy did i stay in it so long?I don’t like myself. AFter our last break up i was reluctant to get back with him after whatever he had done to me the packing his stuff and the coming and goings, it was like every 6 weeks or so he’d be off on his bike again!BUt after yet another silent dose and him knowing i was out with friends i accepted a text from him saying essentially he wanted to end it all and he would see me in another life!OF course i acknowledged… he has a cocaine habit which he blamed all the lying, cheating, paranoia, disappearing acts on, aught he ever done was down to his drug problem and to a point i wanted to believe it was the drugs too. HE begged me to help get him off it and his words no mine have a normal life and all our troubles would be over… not!SO guess what 6 week in to a 12 step program to get off the coke he advertises he not happy, doesn’t feel the same about me packs his stuff and goes!SO i’m behind the bar and in he comes dead on 3pm when i start…served him had a bit of a smile a but of chit chat… i have to keep it work unluckily as i cant be seen to be an moving mess behind the bar in front of the buyers…then my watsapp alert went off. MEssage reads:sorry to come in while your working,i hope that isn’t just your pub persona your giving off lol. I’m sorry i’m on such an stirring rollercoaster at the mo and didn’t want to make you unhappy…i just want you to know your the first thing i think of when i wake up customary. LOve rp xxange,let the money go – and let him go.
THe favoured hoover of mine is “i miss you” by text, once blocked he moved to fb once blocked it was post, email and then visits to my home. I created an email just for him to stop the visits and post. ONe day he will give up i keep my echoes minimal and my replies are brief and delayed to contain the circumstances. I’m wishing a ramped up communication when he ruins his current relationship. IM unsure as to whether my beau is a narcisist…. THere is always drama in his life and he takes no person answerability for his poor choices. AT the start of our rship he pursued me mostly and showered me with gifts and greetings, almost putting me on a pedestal. HOwever as time went on, he has checked quite leading and. NEgative demeanour, such as putting me down, shouting and making fun out of me. HE has a temper but has said he would never hit me!BUt touching blackmail is used and i can see through his lies and manipulation. WE have broken up several times, mostly from me putting my foot down and fussy he treats me better but he always manages to win me back with sob stories and promises of variable. IM just so baffled as hes so sweet and loving in some ways but very hurtful and selfish in others. IM no angel either but i try to control things maturely. DOes he sound like a narcisit and can he change?WOuld love some advice on this. YEs he is a narcissist and he will never change. IT’s a hard truth to accept,the harsh reality that they will never change. NArcissists are very good actors who trick you into gentile that they can connect with you emotionally. THe truth us that they are impotent of making an poignant association with anyone. I am a recovering maids of a narcissistic mother. I was fooled for a long time inasmuch as i could change her, and for that she indeed cared about me. THe moment you make this appreciation, you will feel like a fool firstly because it took so long to figure it out, but it is easy to fall into the narcissistic trap and no one should feel foolish for falling for it. THe best thing you can do for itself is to cut it off. I wish the very best for you!THis define my mom to a t. I haven’t been able to appreciate why she treats me this way. IT’s very confusing and hurtful. I’m in no contact with her right now and life is more calm without her.