NEgative demeanour, such as putting me down, shouting and making fun out of me. HE has a temper but has said he would never hit me!BUt moving blackmail is used and i can see through his lies and manipulation. WE have broken up several times, mostly from me putting my foot down and demanding he treats me better but he always manages to win me back with sob stories and agreements of changeable. IM just so disorganized as hes so sweet and loving in some ways but very hurtful and selfish in others. IM no angel either but i try to deal with things maturely. DOes he sound like a narcisit and can he change?WOuld love some advice on this. YEs he is a narcissist and he will never change. IT’s a hard truth to accept,the harsh reality that they will never change. NArcissists are very good actors who trick you into christian that they can connect with you emotionally. THe truth us that they are unable of making an stirring alliance with anyone. I am a recovering childs of a narcissistic mother. I was fooled for a long time thinking i could change her, and for that she in reality cared about me. THe moment you make this recognition, you will feel like a fool at first because it took so long to figure it out, but it is easy to fall into the narcissistic trap and no one should feel foolish for falling for it. THe best thing you can do for oneself is to cut it off. I wish the very best for you!THis describes my mom to a t. I haven’t been able to understand why she treats me this way. IT’s very confusing and hurtful. I’m in no contact with her right now and life is more cool without her. SHe is assaying to hoover again. I am a very deeply caring person and now i know she likes to feed off that. SHe has admitted she is unfit of rubbing emotionally. WHenever i am around her she is critical, disrepects me, crosses all of my edges, refuses to acknowledge her mistakes or the past abuse that she gave me. HEr latest tactics are to use her holy views against me sadly. 31 years of her emotionally abuse and management has appear in all of the symptoms this article lists. THankfully after years of counselling and group therapy i am on the mend. NOt cured but i am seeing advance!I am cheered to realize no contact is the best with the narcissist. I have the same undergo. IT is schoking to see what is really going on, to understand that your mom never loved you. I have a daughters who is now 24 years old and she is suffering, too!ACtually my maids opened my eyes. NOw my parents are hoovering, her, too. ANd it happens always exactly in the moment when i or my wenches are working for our lives to go on, maybe having some obstacles on the way: then my parents decide to put their fingers on our lives and decide to “help”.
HE wanted money for helping me, even though i had already given him $15,000 in a 2 year period, plus always paid his way for eating out, movies, gas. IT was a total con game for him. I don’t know how i could be so stupid, but now he actually has declined me, because i wouldn’t give him another money, so, it’s hurting, but i know i will heal in time. HE is a classic narcissist. THinks only of himself and what he wants. I was to blame for all his money difficulty and general life difficulties, so ergo he required that i support him both emotionally and financially. AWful, awful affiliation. WHy did i stay in it so long?I don’t jab myself. AFter our last break up i was reluctant to get back with him after aught he had done to me the packing his stuff and the coming and goings, it was like every 6 weeks or so he’d be off on his bike again!BUt after yet another silent dosage and him knowing i was out with friends i sanctioned a text from him saying at bottom he wanted to end it all and he would see me in another life!OF course i replied… he has a cocaine habit which he blamed all the lying, cheating, paranoia, disappearing acts on, everything he ever done was down to his drug problem and to a point i wanted to believe it was the drugs too. HE begged me to help get him off it and his words no mine have a normal life and all our troubles would be over… not!SO guess what 6 week in to a 12 step program to get off the coke he advertises he not happy, doesn’t feel the same about me packs his stuff and goes!SO i’m behind the bar and in he comes dead on 3pm when i start…served him had a bit of a smile a but of chit chat… i have to keep it work unfortunately as i cant be seen to be an touching mess behind the bar in front of the consumers…then my watsapp alert went off. MEssage reads:sorry to come in while your working,i hope that isn’t just your pub persona your giving off lol. I’m sorry i’m on such an poignant rollercoaster at the mo and didn’t want to make you unhappy…i just want you to know your the first thing i think of when i wake up everyday. LOve rp xxange,let the money go – and let him go. HE will never change. I always had that tiny bit of hope too, but his example remain the same, even though he has, i think become a little more patient and a little less angry – he’s still the same. I thought things would change when he got a better job – nope – he got a better job and he still foreseen me to pay his way!IN fact, he wanted to show me the beautiful blinds he placed at a trendy bar, so we went there in my car, my gas, and i bought him a very beloved beer and myself one drink. THe entire event cost me about $40. 00. HE is never going to change. REad about how to get over a breakup. IT’s not easy. I just spent the weekend in a deep blues, but better this temporary phase than the rest of my life with someone who uses me emotionally, financially, and really, someone who i’m at first excited to be with, but by power, handling, and control, ends up draining all my energy – and doesn’t realize he’s doing it!WAlk away. LEt it go. ANd i will do the same. IT’s a process. IT takes time.