THankfully after years of guidance and group therapy i am on the mend. NOt cured but i am seeing promotion!I am supported to realize no contact is the best with the narcissist. I have the same event. IT is schoking to see what is really going on, to heed that your mom never loved you. I have a daughters who is now 24 years old and she is essaying, too!ACtually my daughter opened my eyes. NOw my parents are hoovering, her, too. ANd it happens always exactly in the moment when i or my childs are working for our lives to go on, maybe having some obstacles on the way: then my parents decide to put their fingers on our lives and decide to “help”. EVen no help is asked. THe point is to keep me and my daughters under the controll, nothing else. MY childs said to my father that she takes contact when she is ready. DId my parents valued that?NO, they all the time try to press her to take contact. ANd when it is not working with her she does not answer , they contact me, sending some “virtuous” letters that i do not believe any moore. THe aim is to get us hooked again!THank you alice, i have been abused as a child, only to marry a bully and raise infants that bully me, now after years of trying to escape, i am back living in usa, cents of reason why i should be punished for what i did they say, i never can do enough to please them, or spend enough, i get cornor by wanting to see my grandchildren, i put up with their bullying me, after dec. 22 and a stroke, and aneurysm that can’t be fixed, i came out one last time to see my granddaughter, but with all the yelling at me for not being loving enough , i see it has corrupted my granddaughter. NOt sure what to do, but will have to make a choice to live away from all of them. THank you for dedicating your life to what needs to be address so dearlyzi feel like ruby. HAd a narcissitic lover. HE drained me of alot of my savings. HE always blamed me for all his life issues. HOwever, now that i have broken up with him, i feel this sense of loss, like i’m shattered to the world. I have no babies, and few friends as i am an introvert. MY life is calm and quiet, but a part of me misses him, but he is bad for me. IF i got back with him, my life would be a wreck again, my money would float down the drain, and my energy would be sucked out of me. JUst don’t know how to get over this shattered feeling i have. ANybody suffer this?I’d value your input. HEllo rose, had needy friends i used 2 think needed 2 be around them until i noticed how narcissistic they are, and then i decided 2 slowly back away from them. HAd male friends but it became sometimes debates between 1 guy and another guy striving 2 get my regard. IT was fatiguing. I used 2 think i’m not the referee here, they lacked self certainty, self esteem, and i felt loaded by having 2 reassure each of them for their grants in the friendship. I gave them my love they brought drama and gossip which is dysfunctional. IT was a huge burden.
YOu most likely will never be that person again but you can get pretty darn close. NEver give up and never give in to these people stick to the no contact. REmember time does heal a lot of things…give it time. IT has been 2 years for me now and just 2 days ago i accepted a follow request from him on instagram , he instantly unfollowed me but, he i believe was just letting me know he’s still near and or wanted a backlash from me. I have been researching my fortune for months as i have never met anything like this in my life. WE were concurrently for 5 years until our spousal of 1 year. I knew our tie wasn’t right, but i couldn’t resolve what was going on. I felt anxious all the time to make him happy and he still felt very distant to me. HE hardly gave any fondness. I went to bed alone at nights and begged him for just 1 night/ week to go to sleep with me. NEver eventuated. HE started bringing his exes into the picture, locked his phone consistently, and would even take it to the bathroom with him. IN the middle of the nights, his phone would light up repeatedly. HE told me it’s refurbishing more than usual. I trusted all this, to a point. AFter work one day, he told me about a lovely home he found in another town.